"I wish you could experience the miracle of giving life"

I honestly don't think most people understand the words they say. 

Here's the brutally honest responses I'd like to offer, to some of the most common statements I personally take in, in my unique situation.

  •  "Why didn't you ever have a baby of your own?" - You mean why didn't I birth a child? My son is my "own". And I don't know why I didn't conceive a child. Maybe I didn't stand on my head long enough, or eat the right foods, or count the days on the calendar right. 
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  •  "God kept you & your ex from having a baby, because He knew the divorce would happen. See it as protection."-    Really? So, let me get this straight. God knew that it would all hit the fan, so we weren't able to conceive a baby. Yet, we endured 3 and a half years of an adoption process to bring  home a child from a hard place, and that's better than a biological child enduring parents divorcing? I do believe that God can turn all things to good, but I don't believe that He prevented conception due to pending human error.  

 

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  •  " You'd be so cute pregnant. Maybe one day you will be!" - Uhm, thanks? You'd be so cute as a foster or adoptive parent. Maybe one day you will be.
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  • "I wish you could experience the miracle of giving life." -  Let me calm down before this response. This one strikes so many cords in me, that it's a struggle to gather my thoughts. I'll put it as simple, and as kindly as I can; adoption gives new life.   

 

I stand on my belief that God ordains families. We make mistakes, and if we allow him to, God will still create something beautiful from our junk. I honestly don't understand why God chose me to adopt my son. There were so many wonderful women who loved on him.  

 

Morgan loved on, and cared for my boy, before I knew he was my son. And she is doing amazing things in Haiti, with her organization Little Footprints, Big Steps.  

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Melissa met my boy the same day I did. After a long day of medical attention, she held him on the way back to his "home". 

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Elizabeth made my boy smile, and shared in laugher, when I couldn't be there.

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So many people loved him, yet God called me to be his mom. So many other women could've cared for him, yet I get the privilege. So many families could've been the perfect image for him to grow up in, yet despite our chaos, God gave us the honor. 

 

Again, I don't understand God's ways. But I know he has the most perfect plan for our lives. Yes, experiencing pregnancy would be amazing. A short 9 month journey. However, the long journey of adoption, was exactly where my life was meant to travel. 

If you are being led to give new life to a child through foster and/or adoption, please don't hesitate.  

And although I may not be able to choose whether I conceive a child or not, you can choose to open your heart to foster or adopt

 

This is how we dress for an at home dance party  

This is how we dress for an at home dance party